Answers
The questions you carry, answered from the other side.
I'm Josh, Haven's founder. I was the one in addiction, and I'm sixteen years sober. These are my honest answers to the questions the people who love someone in addiction ask, because my family had nobody to ask.
How to Help an Addict Who Doesn't Want Help
I was the addict who didn't want help. Sixteen years sober, here's what the people who loved me actually did, and what was never their job.
Why Do Addicts Lie to the People They Love?
I was the liar. Sixteen years sober, I can tell you why I lied to my family every day, and why believing me was never your fault.
Can Love Save an Addict?
My family's love reached me. All of it landed. And it could not get me sober. Sixteen years in, here's what love actually did.
Watching Someone You Love Destroy Themselves
I was the one being watched. Sixteen years sober, I can tell you what it looked like from inside, and what it was never about.
Guilt After Leaving an Addict
Most advice on this guilt comes from people who left. I'm the one who got left. My parents cut me off three months before I got sober.
How to Set Boundaries With an Addict
I'm the wrong person to teach you how. I was the addict on the receiving end. Here's what the boundary did when it landed on me.
How to Stop Worrying About Someone in Addiction
I can't teach you to stop worrying. Nobody honest can. But I was the son my mom worried about, and I can tell you what I know from the inside.
Do Addicts Ignore Your Messages on Purpose?
I was the one who went silent. Sixteen years sober, here's what your unanswered messages actually meant, and what they never meant.
My Husband Is in Denial About His Addiction
He has the problem and doesn't see it. I was the one who felt fine while my family fell apart. Sixteen years sober, here's how denial works from inside.
My Husband Blames Me for His Relapse
I said things like that when I was using, so I have to answer this. Sixteen years sober: the blame was never yours. Here's what it really was.